How conflict affects men – More about relationship psychology

Psychology teaches us why men and woman react differently when they are in a position of conflict. There are always going to be periodic disputes when you live with someone.

The situation worsens, however, when their differing conception of the problem causes them to worsen it. Couples often turn to counseling when there is a serious relationship problem,

and most counseling is oriented towards helping them understand how their partner is thinking in a given situation.

The National Institute of Mental Health funded a study which showed that most couples together for just a few weeks and were aged between 18 and 21, avoided intimacy and being dependent on their other half. They were apparently anxious that they might be rejected or abandoned. There were different categories of anxiety; those who felt more secure in themselves had lower levels and the level of anxiety in others varied because of the way they managed their anxiety.

It also transpired that the results were very different between the men and the women.

Tests showed that male reaction was easier to discern. Most of the men showed increased

anxiety whereas only the most evasive of the women indicated any real difference.

The women wanted to lead the debate in trying to settle a relationship conflict; they were perceived as wanting to find a solution to the crisis. For them stress fell as the confrontation advanced. They were happier when the conflict was sorted out rapidly.

The men took a more passive role in settling the relationship crisis. They also wanted matters resolved but they tended not to want a head on dispute. The men with the most secure female partners showed less stress than the others, during the tests. There was no change in the stress displayed by the women following the level of security of their partner.

When you come looking for help to sort out your relationship, the counselor will help you to see why and how men and women think in different ways.

Interpreting the above tests will make it easier for you to realize why men and women act differently when faced with conflict

The above research on studying the effects of relationship conflict in men and women will help you know why the react the way that they do. You will both be better armed now to resolve your relationship conflict.

Joe Bisley

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